Being present can be a challenge. We are focusing on something that happened yesterday or maybe looking forward to an event in a few days.
Sometimes we forget what it’s like to be present in the moment, to make a mess because we are truly engaged in the activity, to enjoy painting for the sake of painting (even if it’s painting our arms or legs!). To a child or an adult with special needs, it isn’t making a mess…it’s enjoying the moment for exactly what it is.
Being present is about becoming so engrossed in the activity itself that one doesn’t think of the consequences of “making a mess”. It’s also about being so focused, one doesn’t think about anything else around them (i.e. where else they need to be, who else is there with them, when they get their next snack) — just the activity itself. Wouldn’t it be nice if we all took time to be present in the moment?
But how do we go about “being present”?
Probably best to take a cue from those best at being present — observing children. Sure, sometimes they go from activity to activity without staying anywhere too long. But sometimes they are enjoying what they are doing so much that you hate to tear them away. And they don’t want to be torn away. How many times do we observe a child building a city made of Duplo blocks? Or painting a masterpiece?
Most of the time we just need to get started, begin an activity and stick with it for awhile. Once we’ve started, it evolves on its own. Make sure your activity is an “active” activity — watching TV, reading a book, or playing with an electronic device of any kind doesn’t count! Also, try a new activity, something you haven’t done very often, if at all. It’s a lot easier to get involved in something if you haven’t done it before, or it has been a long time since you’ve done it. What about a dance or yoga class? Pottery? Art class? Cooking class?
As adults it can be very difficult for us to “be present”. If you’re still having trouble, go play with a preschooler. Seriously. They are the best at play and some of my most favorite people in the world. Run! Go! Play with playdough!
